Today I wanted to talk about something that seems simple, but is so important to any relationship – date night! It doesn’t matter if you’re in a new relationship, have been together for years, or are married with little ones – dates are an important part of any romantic relationship. Just like you spend time with your friends, all healthy relationships require quality time spent talking, listening and experiencing life together. It’s easy for dates to become few and far between – you’ll get to it if you have time or money – especially when you and your partner are working demanding jobs or raising a family. But incorporating this into our lives has played a huge part in keeping our relationship strong, and here’s why:
It breaks up the monotony. You can love your job, family and lifestyle and still get stuck in a rut. That’s totally normal! But a special night spent with your spouse can break things up more than you think. A lot of times we get caught up in our crazy lives and forget that our partners are there to support us through the bigger picture too. Time carved out for a date gives you a chance to talk about things other than your day-to-day.
You get to know each other on a deeper level. If you’re married or in a long term relationship, it’s easy to think that there isn’t more to learn. But having an evening dedicated to good conversation and experiencing something (whether a home cooked meal, weekend trip away, or anything in between!) together allows you to continue growing in your relationship. There’s nothing in life that doesn’t always have something to teach you – and that includes marriage.
It also gives you both a reason to dress up :)
It forces you to relax. If you’re the type of person who’s always on the go, you know what I mean by needing to be forced to relax! By spending time with someone you’re 100% comfortable being yourself around, away from the stressors of daily life if even for an hour or two, you just have a renewed sense of calm. It makes it so much easier to go back and face whatever life throws at you, now that you’ve been reminded about what matters most. If you find that you and your partner are bickering or disagreeing a lot, a date night is probably in order! I guarantee you’ll both unconsciously decide to go easier on each other afterward.
You remember your why. Yep, this statement is true for relationships too. It’s always good to remember why you began this crazy ride together! There’s nothing like those “we’re in this together” moments to remind you and your spouse why you’ve worked so hard on your relationship and why you WANT to continue to do so. Especially if you’ve been having a tough time or are working through something – moments like these will provide clarity in your relationship that you can’t get when just going through the motions.
That’s not to say that all the little moments you and your partner share together aren’t just as important – but a little time to focus on your relationship will only strengthen those experiences.
What’s your favorite date night activity? Would love to get inspired!