Real Talk: How Being A Mom Has Changed Me

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Mother’s Day is coming up this weekend, and it has me thinking a lot about how being a mom has changed me for the better. Every day with my children I work hard to try and be the best parent that I can, trying to anticipate their needs. However, each day they manage to flip the script on me (in a good way)! I learn patience and persistence from them on a daily basis. Most importantly though, they have shown me what unconditional love truly means.

My children have also taught me how to be present and in the moment, which is something that can be really hard to do when you are a working mom and have a lot of responsibility in your life. As a mom who can be a little OCD, my children have made me realize that it is okay to leave some dirty dishes in the sink for a while, or to not write that email right away, and to just live in the moment. I have learned that it is worth giving up a little control in my life, to be able to sit and watch a movie with them or just have time to bond.

Growing up, I had a mother who some would say, was a strict parent. Now that I am a parent, I can see that everything she did and how she parented, was done completely out love for her children. I grew up to love the person that I am, and to feel confident about myself, and that is because of my mom. She worked so hard to develop good character, strong faith and to instill a secure sense of self in her kids. There is no way that I would have been able to navigate a career in the spotlight, and remain true to my values and faith, had it not been for my mom. How she raised me has had such an incredible impact on who I am today, and now in turn, how I am raising my own children.

I have also been lucky enough to have children around the same time as my sister! Tia had her son before I had Aden, and she was always 100% honest with me about her experience with motherhood. She really helped prepare me for both the joys and the realities of what being a mom looked like. Most importantly, she taught me that as a mom, it is okay to keep pursuing your dreams while being a devoted parent. That was something that I was really struggling with —  I wasn’t sure that it was going to be possible to keep growing my career and have children. My sister has the most beautiful and special relationship with her son, and she really showed me that that as a mom, you can do both. I love sharing motherhood moments with her. Some days we just laugh because we will try and talk on the phone after a long day, and neither of us can even finish a thought because we are so tired! To be able to experience all the aspects of motherhood alongside my sister is one of the most amazing blessings.

I have only been a parent for four years, and I can’t imagine my life without my children! Parenting is both the hardest and most blissful job I have ever had. When you’re a mom, there is no such thing as a day off, and yes, exhaustion becomes your new normal. But you just figure it out!

Hats off to all the mommys out there! 

Xo

Tamera

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Mommy Hacks: Getting Baby to Sleep Through The Night

Hey guys! I recently got an email from a reader about getting her 11 month old to sleep through the night. Her baby had been sick, and is no longer staying asleep. Whether or not you’ve always struggled to get baby to sleep or something happened to disrupt their routine, there’s hope! Here are some of my fave tricks for getting baby to rest when they need to (so you can sleep too):

Getting Baby to Stay Asleep

Establish a bedtime routine. Little ones thrive under routines, which is why I’ve talked about Aden and Ariah’s nighttime rituals in the past – they’re still so important. If you want a baby that will sleep through the night, the first step is getting them to fall asleep, and keep that routine to create consistency in their lives. As you might’ve seen, our nighttime ritual includes a warm bath, bedtime stories, and prayer. These are all relaxing, “wind down” type of activities, that help lull baby to sleep.

Check the temperature. Babies are sensitive and their rooms need to be comfortable for them to sleep in. If they’re too cold or too hot, they’ll feel that in the night and wake up uncomfortable. This might take a little testing to see what your baby sleeps best in, but it can make a huge difference.

Overnight diapers. Getting the right overnight diapers will keep them dry through the night – another common reason for babies waking up. Again, if they feel comfortable, they’ll be more likely to stay asleep until they’re well rested. 

Find the right window of time. Little ones have a specific time window. Make sure they go to bed when they’re supposed to – sometimes they miss that. Usually, children will wake up around the same time no matter what, so keep that in mind if their routine is disrupted or they don’t feel tired. Another trick? You may think that because they’re not sleeping through the night, you’re putting them down too early but actually – sometimes the earlier bedtime helps them to stay asleep longer. Go figure!

Lastly… Get a sound machine! Kids of all ages love sound soothers – I know because both Aden and Ariah do. Just like the tips above help create consistency in a baby’s sleep routine, sound soothers provide subtle, rhythmic background noise that makes them feel more at ease. Some of them have warm, glowing night lights and different melodies to choose from. If you haven’t tried this yet, you just might be amazed.

If you have any baby sleep tricks, share with me in the comments below. Thanks to Tameramowry.com reader Carmen for the inspiration, and good luck with Mila!  

Xx,
Tamera

The Importance of Date Night

Today I wanted to talk about something that seems simple, but is so important to any relationship – date night! It doesn’t matter if you’re in a new relationship, have been together for years, or are married with little ones – dates are an important part of any romantic relationship. Just like you spend time with your friends, all healthy relationships require quality time spent talking, listening and experiencing life together. It’s easy for dates to become few and far between – you’ll get to it if you have time or money – especially when you and your partner are working demanding jobs or raising a family. But incorporating this into our lives has played a huge part in keeping our relationship strong, and here’s why: 

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It breaks up the monotony. You can love your job, family and lifestyle and still get stuck in a rut. That’s totally normal! But a special night spent with your spouse can break things up more than you think. A lot of times we get caught up in our crazy lives and forget that our partners are there to support us through the bigger picture too. Time carved out for a date gives you a chance to talk about things other than your day-to-day.

You get to know each other on a deeper level. If you’re married or in a long term relationship, it’s easy to think that there isn’t more to learn. But having an evening dedicated to good conversation and experiencing something (whether a home cooked meal, weekend trip away, or anything in between!) together allows you to continue growing in your relationship. There’s nothing in life that doesn’t always have something to teach you – and that includes marriage.

Tamera and Adam date nightIt also gives you both a reason to dress up :)

It forces you to relax. If you’re the type of person who’s always on the go, you know what I mean by needing to be forced to relax! By spending time with someone you’re 100% comfortable being yourself around, away from the stressors of daily life if even for an hour or two, you just have a renewed sense of calm. It makes it so much easier to go back and face whatever life throws at you, now that you’ve been reminded about what matters most. If you find that you and your partner are bickering or disagreeing a lot, a date night is probably in order! I guarantee you’ll both unconsciously decide to go easier on each other afterward.

You remember your why. Yep, this statement is true for relationships too. It’s always good to remember why you began this crazy ride together! There’s nothing like those “we’re in this together” moments to remind you and your spouse why you’ve worked so hard on your relationship and why you WANT to continue to do so. Especially if you’ve been having a tough time or are working through something – moments like these will provide clarity in your relationship that you can’t get when just going through the motions.

That’s not to say that all the little moments you and your partner share together aren’t just as important – but a little time to focus on your relationship will only strengthen those experiences.

What’s your favorite date night activity? Would love to get inspired!

Xx,
Tamera

Our Disneyland Weekend

Ariah at Disneyland - Tamera Mowry

Any other California mommas out there? You’re probably used to hearing those Disneyland requests come in whenever the weekend rolls around. It’s Aden and Ariah’s favorite place (did not take this girl long to become a Disney fan!) so a family weekend trip was in order. Gotta love Disney family traditions!

Ariah at Disneyland Tamera Mowry

This time around we didn’t have to travel so far, like when we visited Disney World last year. Still, Disney is a whole weekend affair.

 Aden and Cree at Disneyland - Tamera Mowry

Aden was thrilled to be reunited with his cousin for our family outing. These two love getting together.

Ariah at Disneyland - Tamera Mowry

The Mickey moments were nice…

Aden and Ariah at Disneyland - Tamera Mowry

But the sibling moments were better!

Aden and Ariah at Disneyland - Tamera Mowry

Did you guys ever do the penny machine? They were fascinated.

Ariah at Disneyland - Tamera Mowry

She loves making new friends.

Ariah at Disneyland - Tamera Mowry

We had so much fun with Cree!

Ariah at Disneyland - Tamera Mowry

Ariah at Disneyland - Tamera Mowry

Let me tell you. Chasing kids throughout an enormous theme park is the best workout there is.

Family Disneyland Trip - Tamera Mowry

Ariah did not want to spend her Disney weekend taking photos, but we had to get a family selfie in.
Ariah at Disneyland - Tamera Mowry

The trick is to catch her in the moment. Lol so fun.

Aden at Disneyland - Tamera Mowry

He refused to leave the park! So you can imagine how the ride home went…

Tamera and Adam at Disneyland

We survived! Family outings are always a blast… But don’t forget to plan a day for recovery mode. So wiped out!

Do you have traditions for family trips or vacays? Share your stories below!

Xx,
Tamera

Mommy Musings: The Bond Between Siblings

Hi guys! You know how much my kids are always on my mind, and I love that we can have discussions about parenting topics like watching our little ones grow here on my site. One such topic is the amazing bond that siblings have – as Aden and Ariah grow, I think about it more and more.

Mommy Musings: The Bond Between Siblings - Tamera Mowry

When Ariah was born, Adam and I didn’t just become parents of two little ones – we became parents of two siblings. Like in all growing families, the dynamic of our house completely changed. Something really special happened that I think every momma can appreciate: Aden and Ariah formed an incredible bond.

Being a mom of two children under 5 has its own huge set of challenges, but seeing them become inseparable makes it all worth it. I know from my own childhood that siblings are not only as different as night and day, but they have one of the tightest bonds humans ever make. This is why seeing them play together brings me endless joy – there’s really nothing like it. It’s so special.

With the closeness of siblings – and the fact that they’re literally under one roof – comes sibling rivalry at its finest. What siblings get along all the time? It’s easy for little ones to go from laughter to tears in the blink of an eye. As a parent you have to take it on and accept is as part of their growth – personalities will clash and conflicts will rise. There will be a lot of tired mommy moments spent intervening in nonsensical tantrums, while teaching kindness and making sure they always make up in the end. Aden was an only child long before his baby sis, and he’s had a lot of adapting to do from learning to share to being more gentle, but no matter what – he’s got all the love in the world for her.

I love my time spent with each of my little ones, but seeing them together like the best of friends is just another beautiful part of being a mom that I will always cherish.

Did you grow up with siblings? Or, do your children have brothers and sisters? Share your sibling stories below!

Xx,
Tamera

Ariah’s First Ballet Lesson

Ariah's Ballet Lesson - Tamera Mowry

Last weekend my baby girl had her first ballet lesson. It was a huge milestone for Ariah and I wanted to share a few sweet moments from the day. So proud of her!

Ariah's Ballet Lesson - Tamera Mowry

We decided to put Ariah in dance because she seems to naturally enjoy it. If your child is really curious about something, getting them involved in it from a young age is a great way to help them learn and explore. I know a lot of adults who wish they’d explored their interests more when they were little ones, myself included, so I wanted to make sure Ariah had that experience if she wanted it.

Ariah's Ballet Lesson - Tamera Mowry

She’d already gotten on her toes and twirled on her own, not to mention how much girl loves a cute tutu, so all signs pointed to ballet for Ariah’s first official dance lesson. Love how confident she is when trying new things!

Ariah's Ballet Lesson - Tamera Mowry

Momma was by her side for support the entire time.

Ariah's Ballet Lesson - Tamera Mowry

Ariah's Ballet Lesson - Tamera Mowry

She’s a natural! Ariah had a blast learning the basics… And getting silly too.

Ariah's Ballet Lesson - Tamera Mowry

Aden has his own extracurricular activities, like karate and soccer. I’m so excited to see both of my babies follow their passions as they get older and find what they truly enjoy doing. Life is so much more fun when you make time for what you love, and I want them to know that early on.

I’m one proud momma! Moms, when did you start enrolling your little ones in activities?

Xx,
Tamera