As any mommy knows, being a parent really puts things in perspective. It’s no longer about you – and as important as taking time for yourself is – you realize just how great your impact and influence is. And you realize that the little things that once seemed huge and daunting are really tiny compared to what truly matters to your happiness and the happiness of your family. Having a baby humbles in that way. Lately, it’s reminded me of something that I think others can relate to, parent or not, of a shift in focus that we could all use every now and then, whether or not we have little ones to care for.
We all get caught up in things that we KNOW aren’t important or vital to our happiness… like petty drama we never meant to be involved in or life’s other little stresses. Honestly, who isn’t guilty of that? It’s okay to get caught up in that way occasionally – it’s only natural, especially given that we’re social creatures with a need for connection. But when we start to dwell on those little, insignificant things rather than what’s important, from the strength of our marriage to keeping the faith to simply making baby smile, that’s when we really need to refocus. I know that I’m not doing myself any favors by letting little frustrations get under my skin, or letting my mind wander where it shouldn’t!
It can be difficult to shift the focus, especially after a hard time, busy month, or a series of setbacks. And if you’ve really been through a lot, it’s hard to know exactly how to turn a negative into a positive. No matter the reason, big or small, when I feel myself going there, here’s what I do: Instead of forcing myself to ignore my emotions, I try to remember the important things instead, and the meaning behind them. I channel that overwhelming joy and love that comes with them. Not only does it stop me from filling with worry, I notice a change in mindset. Slowly but surely, the overwhelm of those little problems melts away. Everything is more clear, my mind is content and at peace. And the road ahead is a lot more joyful!
Sometimes you have to teach your mind to refocus just once, sometimes you have to do it continually throughout the day, just like you would do with an affirmation, but in the end, it’s so worth it.
What do you do when you find yourself focusing on the wrong things? How do you change your mindset?