Real Talk: How I Deal With Stress

Tamera Mowry

We all feel stress in our lives from time to time. Unfortunately, stress is part of life and we all need to learn how to deal with it!  For me, it’s a daily exercise to manage my stress. Some days I’m great at it, other days, I’m a mess. But hey, that’s life!

Work stress is definitely what gets to me the most. Mainly because there are the normal stresses and demands of working long hours, but on top of that, I find myself constantly thinking and worrying about my children. I worry how their day is going, whether they are feeling okay, how school is, whether they ate their lunch, and so on and so on. Basically, as a mom, I am constantly worrying, and that equals a lot more stress for me at work!

As soon as my stress levels rise just a little too much, my natural reaction is to panic. I freak out, I get anxious and if it’s a really stressful day, I cry. I can also feel all the stress and tension start to physically manifest throughout my body.

Now obviously some stress is normal, but feeling like you have been pushed to your breaking point, is NOT ideal! Over the years, I have gotten better at managing my stress levels and have developed different tips and tricks to cope.

The first thing I do is I allow myself to feel every emotion fully — I let it all out, and then after two or three days, I make the decision to let it go. I think that it is really important to feel those emotions, and then release them. If you hold on to your feelings, they will come up in other ways and you will find yourself displacing those emotions on the ones you love. Next, I write down everything that I think will help me deal with whatever is bothering me. It’s amazing how the simple act of writing things down can be a huge emotional release, and give you a sense of peace! I always try and think long-term, and ask myself if what is bothering me will really matter in 5-10 years. By allowing myself to feel, react and then make an action plan, I find that I have clarity.

Exercise is another BIG part of how I deal with managing my stress. Releasing endorphins during a good workout always makes me feel so much better equipped to deal with what is bothering me. I also make the decision to take a break from all things digital when my stress levels rise. By logging off social media and turning off the TV for a while, I get much more focused, and can live in the moment with my family and friends (which is what matters most!).

Lastly, I try and remember that some things just happen for a reason, and sometimes we need to just trust that everything is going to be okay!

Let me know how you guys manage your stress!
Xx

Tamera 

Beautiful Naturally Dyed Easter Eggs

Happy Easter from tameramowry.com

Hi guys! Easter is coming up this weekend, I am so excited to spend time with my family, and carry on my favorite traditions with my kids like an Easter egg hunt in the back yard, and dying Easter eggs! When someone told me recently that you can dye eggs naturally without traditional store-bought food coloring, I was really intrigued and decided that I had to try it. It turns out that it is pretty easy to dye eggs at home using different foods, and the results are absolutely gorgeous! So beautiful in fact, that I had to share with you all how I did it!

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naturally dyed eggs

START by hard boiling a dozen white eggs and set them aside so that they cool to room temperature. Once your dye is ready, place each egg into the jar of dye you have prepared, and allow to sit for one hour. You can pull your eggs out periodically to check the coloring … If you want your eggs to be more vibrant, then leave them in the jars a little longer! You will notice that some colors take faster than others. The light green dye (done with spinach) takes the longest to color an egg, so I recommend leaving the eggs in the dye overnight to get that nice light green color!

FOR THE DYE:

Yellow: 2 tablespoons of turmeric, combined in a saucepan with 2 cups of water and a tablespoon of sea salt. Bring to a boil for ten minutes and pour the liquid into a jar with 1 tablespoon of white vinegar.

Blue: 2 cups of frozen wild blueberries, combined in a saucepan with 2 cups of water and a tablespoon of sea salt. Bring to a boil for ten minutes and then strain the liquid into a jar with 1 tablespoon of white vinegar.

Mocha / Light Brown: 2 cups of strong coffee placed in a jar with a tablespoon of sea salt and 1 tablespoon of white vinegar.

Pink: 2 cups of chopped beets, combined in a saucepan with 2 cups of water and a tablespoon of sea salt. Bring to a boil for ten minutes and then strain the liquid into a jar with 1 tablespoon of white vinegar.

Purple: 2 cups of red wine placed in a jar with a tablespoon of sea salt and 1 tablespoon of white vinegar. Shake well to dissolve the salt.

Light Green: 2 cups of chopped spinach, combined in a saucepan with 1.5 cups of water and a tablespoon of sea salt. Bring to a boil for ten minutes and then strain the liquid into a jar with 1 tablespoon of white vinegar.

Hope you all have an amazing Easter!

Xx

Tamera

 

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9 Inspiring Books for Women and Mothers

Between spring cleaning and checking in on those New Years resolutions, this time of year is a great opportunity to get refreshed. Inspirational reading always gives me a new perspective on life and I’m always up for getting lost in a good book. Anyone feel the same? I rounded up 9 interesting books – both from this year and before – that are sure to refresh your outlook on womanhood, motherhood, marriage and life in general. Let me know what you think!

9 Inspiring Books for Women - Tamera Mowry1. The Gratitude Diaries: How a Year Looking on the Bright Side Can Transform Your Life by Janice Kaplan. You know how important I think a positive outlook can be, but sometimes that’s easier said than done. In this book, you will learn just how much gratitude affects your own outlook on life – from the perspective of someone that’s experimented with it personally and researched it extensively. Gotta love seeing New Years resolutions come true!

2. Glimpses of Grace: Treasuring the Gospel in Your Home by Gloria Furman. This book is all about how to appreciate the little moments in life. It’s so easy to get stuck in a rut, but that’s life – it’s not about making every moment exciting, but learning to appreciate even the not-so-thrilling ones.

3. The Fringe Hours: Making Time For You by Jessica N. Turner is for the woman that is always taking on everything. You know you need to make time for your interests and passions, but there doesn’t seem to be a minute to spare. Turner helps you make the most of the tiny moments that could be used for you.

4. Listen, Love, Repeat: Other-Centered Living in a Self-Centered World by Karen Ehman. If you’re not completely happy or just feel like something’s missing, Ehman provides a solution: giving. How being kind and lending a helping hand – even in the smallest ways – can lead to our own fulfillment. This book is based on the idea that living a self-focused life is what really leads to unhappiness, and loving others is the key to joy.

5. The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown. Brown has written many things since this book came out, but this one is a must whether you’ve followed her work or are just now discovering it. It’s not just the motivation you need to feel more comfortable in your own skin, it’s a tried-and-true approach to finally living the statement “I am enough”.

6. Happy by Darren Brown is a good basis for a lot of the topics the rest of these books tackle. Instead of just striving to be happy, Brown helps us find out what happiness really is, and why we want to achieve it.

7. Love Unending: Rediscovering Your Marriage in the Midst of Motherhood by Becky Thompson. The first line you’ll read when researching this book is “How can I remember how to be a wife when it takes all I’ve got to be a momma?” Thompson just gets it – sometimes we don’t feel like we can give each and every part of our lives our all, including our marriages. With 21 days full of inspiration and challenges, Thompson helps you rediscover the love that brought you to this point.

8. Surprised by Motherhood: Everything I Never Expected about Being a Mom by Lisa-Jo Baker. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again – no two mothers’ journeys are alike. This memoir from the perspective of a woman who never thought she was fit for motherhood is sure to inspire any mom who has questioned her journey along the way.

9. Bread and Wine: A Love Letter to Life Around the Table with Recipes by Shauna Niequist. Lastly, this book focuses on the kitchen table as a way to anchor the relationships in our lives. Party memoir, part recipe book, it’s all about the way meals don’t just nourish us, they bring us together. A good book and tasty recipes… You can’t go wrong. ;)

Have you read any of these books? Let me know which books are inspiring you lately.

Xx,
Tamera

5 Tips for Spring Entertaining on a Budget

Now that spring is finally here, it’s time to start thinking about entertaining. Just because the holiday season is long gone doesn’t mean you don’t get to play hostess every now and then. There are so many reasons you might want to invite people into your home this time of year, but don’t worry – you don’t have to spend a lot of money to show friends and family a great time.

5 Tips for Spring Entertaining on a Budget -  Tamera Mowry

How to Entertain on a Budget

Host a potluck. People have mixed feelings about potlucks – guests don’t always want to feel forced into it, but it can be a great way for an already busy hostess to save money and time, too. The trick here is to make it worth guests’ while. If you’re going to host an event potluck style, be sure to take on something else instead. Give guests a guide or suggestions on what to bring instead of a strict menu, and offer something like ample drink options or custom décor in order to make the event feel special.

Cheap cocktails. Beer and wine is often cheaper than a bar full of alcohol, but it can still add up. Create your own cocktails with bubbly for a fun, inexpensive alternative to traditional event offerings. With a little fruit or a homemade simple syrup, you can take sparkling cocktails up a notch and not need to worry about getting the fanciest bottle.

Create an ambiance. A lot of people think you need great flowers to create a beautiful centerpiece, but you can actually create a fabulous tablescape without the blooms. Opt for a little greenery (preferably from the farmers market – you’ll get the best prices) and lots of candles instead. You can even buy votives in bulk for the occasion, allowing you to save room in the budget for more important things. This looks even prettier outside, so if you’re entertaining in warm weather you’ll be able to impress guests without completely transforming your backyard. If outside, hang bistro lights for an added oomph!

Create a paper table runner. Instead of expensive linens, there are tons of pretty printed papers that can double as a table runner or placemats. You can even buy a roll of kraft paper for less than $5 and create a rustic base to arrange all those candles on. This handy trick also makes the table a lot more personal for your guests to enjoy.

Keep it casual. Who’s ever said no to a casual hangout? Especially when the temps warm up. If you’re on a budget, don’t go overboard trying to make an event more formal than it needs to be. Guests aren’t always thrilled about spending a lot of money on an outfit or dinner anyway, so they’ll be relieved to attend a casual dinner party during a season with so many weddings and formal events.

Find more entertaining ideas on my Pinterest!

Xx,
Tamera

How to Rediscover Yourself

Hey guys! Today I wanted to talk about a topic that I think is on everyone’s mind at some point in their lives. Whether you’re struggling with maintaining a sense of individuality as your family expands or feeling caught in the hustle of a demanding career – it’s easy to look up and wonder if we’ve lost touch with ourselves.

It’s important for me to look inward from time to time for this reason and I’ve talked about how when I take care of myself, I feel better prepared to take care of my family, friends and job. It’s a little tough to know just HOW to rediscover yourself though – it requires a little soul searching. Here’s what has worked for me:

How to Rediscover Yourself - Tamera Mowry

1. Get curious. Think about what really inspires you, or used to. Think of what your biggest passions or hobbies used to be – maybe it’s time to reconnect. It also helps to explore (it’s never too late to find a new hobby!) and become more open to opportunity and adventure.

2. Get reading. Nothing like a good book to help you discover secrets about yourself. Sometimes reading someone else’s story can teach us about ours. Find a few books that sound interesting and dig in – it usually leads to a fresh perspective. Not to mention it can force you to take a little time off when you’re feeling busy. (Stay tuned for an inspiring book post on my site soon!)

3. Get moving. Life involves a lot of sitting and waiting – and not necessarily in a relaxing way. Even truer if you have a sedentary day job. My workout classes have given me life – you never know what you’re capable of until you really push yourself, and this kind of self-care and confidence is important to discovering yourself. Don’t knock it till you try it ;).

4. Get social. I know, it sounds pretty strange that self-discovery would involve other people but here’s the trick – get out of your rut or routine. Have conversations with old friends or even branch out of your circle. I know that for lots of working moms at least, when life gets busy the social life is the first to go. Yet, quality time with other people is essential to channeling the real you. Make sure you carve out a little time for rediscovering the social “you”.

Have you ever felt the need to re-discover yourself?

Xx,
Tamera

Real Talk: Enjoying the Journey

Happy Monday! Are you ready for the next Real Talk topic of 2017? (If you’ve missed some of my past posts, you can find them all here.) You may have heard me say the phrase “enjoy the journey” before when talking about New Years resolutions. But this isn’t just some goal that will fade, I’ve come to think of it as a lifestyle. Yes, the term enjoy the journey is a nice piece of inspiration, but you’re probably wondering what it means to actually live it.

Enjoying the Journey - Tamera Mowry

The biggest question isn’t how to enjoy your journey (whatever that may be) when life is GOOD but when times are tough. Can you really enjoy difficult parts of life too? Let me tell you, no one’s life is all rainbows and butterflies; no one finds success without failure, love without heartache. But enjoying the journey IS possible – it’s all about maintaining that attitude of gratitude, and focusing on what is going right.

The trick is not to try to pretend that there aren’t hurdles or obstacles. We all have them and they can teach us a lot about us and our convictions. Enjoying the journey isn’t about ignoring our struggle, it’s about embracing them as part of who you are. If you can start to respect those hard times and realize that you’ve learned and grown as a person because of the bumps along the road, you’ll look at life from a more compassionate place.. One that is not only less harsh on others, but kinder to yourself too.

Once you make peace with the fact that struggles are part of the journey, you let go of the impossible expectations that seem to always lead to disappointment (you know the ones). You learn to be content with every part of the road because it led you to this moment. Thinking of life in this way always lifts me up when I’m down, and I hope it does for you too! It’s so empowering to know that no matter what, there’s something to take from each experience we have.

“Don’t wait for everything to be perfect before you decide to enjoy your life.” – Joyce Meyer

What does enjoying the journey mean to you?

Xx,
Tamera